
If people knew how to be truly selfish, we would live in a more generous world.
From The Care of the Self, one of 296 sayings written by John Sarris over thirty years.
From Alfred’s journal
A man on the bench by the library fed the pigeons today and looked miserable the whole time. He tore the bread into pieces too small to matter and kept checking over his shoulder, as though generosity were a thing he might be fined for. Switch said he was being kind. I said he was being dutiful, which is a different bird altogether. I used to think the problem with people was that they wanted too much for themselves; I have watched enough benches now to think they want too little, and the wrong things, and are bored by the getting of them. If people knew how to be truly selfish, we would live in a more generous world. The man left half the loaf on the bench and walked off without once watching the birds eat, which is the part I would have stayed for.


He reads what you tell him and writes a page of his journal back, with a few of these chosen for you. It costs nothing and asks for nothing.
Have it on something
More like it
- Birds sing "Stay out of my space!" so sweetly that no one ever takes offense.
- By the time most of us begin to know ourselves, there seems too much to know.
- Others don’t get to define you unless you let them.
- It's hard to win a tug-of-war with yourself.
- We want others to see in us qualities we do not believe we possess.
- If you fall in love with yourself, you can't leave when it all goes bad.



